“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous.” NLT
We hear about beauty being only skin deep, but what does that really mean? It’s very easy to look upon the outward appearance of someone and call them beautiful, but do we take the time to look for inner beauty too? According to author Shelly Hitz, the biggest body image lie we tell ourselves as women is “If I can change something about my body, others will finally accept me and I will be able to accept myself.” She goes on to say “It is so easy to base our self worth on our looks and appearance because it is the first thing others see in us. Plus, there are mirrors (or windows) everywhere that constantly remind you of your appearance.”
Not only do we use mirrors to reflect our appearance, we also have magazines, TV shows and commercials trying to tell us what the “perfect woman” should look like. We spend so much time trying to compare ourselves with these images that we forget that true self-worth should come from inside. God tells us we’re fearfully and wonderfully made, but when you’re in that dark and lonely place called the mind, those words sometimes fail to penetrate.
I’m one of the first to stand in line or raise my hand when asked about self-esteem. It’s a problem usually associated with teenagers; the period of time spent worrying about hair, makeup, clothing, and whether or not the cute boy sitting across the room is looking at you, but the majority of you reading this are adults. If you took the time to really think, how far back would you have to go to remember an instance where you felt overwhelmed with the fear of being laughed at, looked down upon, or saying the wrong thing? You don’t have to be sixteen to have those feelings; not only do we still have them, but sometimes we fear we’ll never outgrow them.
God really does want us to know we are fearfully and wonderfully made. He told Samuel that He “does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7) He also says to “do your own work well, and then you will have something to be proud of. But don’t compare yourself with others.” (Galatians 6:4) Do you think He’s trying to tell us something? I do. He wants us to know inner beauty is the only true test when it comes to knowing someone. God is unable to lie, so when He tells you not to compare yourself with others because you are beautiful, you are complex, you are marvelous, believe it. Don’t let yourself or anyone else cause you to think otherwise.
Please pray with me:
There are times when I believe it would be much easier if we were all blind and unable to see each other’s faults, but then I realize if we tried to see as You do we would know true beauty comes from our heart and not from our appearance.