“You have me inscribed on the palms of Your hands.””A Colorado woman plans to go an entire year without looking at herself in the mirror. Kjerstin Gruys isn’t looking at her reflection for one whole year (including the six months leading up to her wedding) all for the sake of having a better body image.” That’s all fine and dandy, and it actually sounds good on paper, but what does looking at yourself really have to do with self-worth. I believe that learning to love yourself is a process that must come from inside. True self-love is being able to look in that mirror and accept the person God made you to be; no matter what the reflection is reflecting.
Honestly, when it comes down to it you know more about yourself than anyone else does, so why let someone else’s opinion control how you feel, especially when the only opinion that matters is God’s. We allow people to have too much power over us. Don’t think I’m picking on you though, because I could actually make that statement the title of my autobiography. I’ve always cared about what people thought about me, and if I was completely honest with myself, I still do. Why do we care so much about someone else’s opinion, when we should only be concerned with One? When God formed you in your mother’s womb He wasn’t thinking about how you compared to someone else. He made you uniquely you; He wants you to be you and no one else. He gave you the likes, dislikes, opinions, and ideas that you have. He gave you a mind to think for yourself, and a heart to guide you. I’m not saying you should never ask for someone else’s opinion, just that you shouldn’t let it get to the point where you rely on them to tell you how to think, feel, act, or do.
In the past, I believe I always expected too much from other people and I definitely put too much value on them feeling the same way I did. Instead of relying on myself and my relationship with God, I relied more on my relationships with other people to make me feel better about myself. If they didn’t feel the same way I did, I took it personally. I even felt like I loved them much more than they loved me. Looking back I see that I wasn’t ready to acknowledge that the friends in my life were just as human as I was. There’s absolutely no way you can rely on someone else to allow you to feel better about yourself. That has to start from inside, and must come through God’s help.
You know us through and through and by Your grace we are exactly who You made us to be. Give us the courage to be able to look in the mirror and see what You do, and the wisdom to realize that we are made exactly in Your image. My prayer is that all the ladies (& men) will realize just how valuable they are to You; how wonderfully, beautiful they are made. (Ezekiel 16:14)
In Your name I pray,