If I asked you to attach a price tag to yourself, what amount would you write on it? Through conversations with women of all ages, I’ve found that a large majority would place that figure in the single digits. It’s not that we’re that humble, sometimes we don’t feel as though we are worth that much, or have much to offer. In many cases, our lives haven’t turned out exactly how we envisioned them, and we’re entering the middle-aged mind-set, wondering, how did we get here?
For me, it’s the ghost of knowing that I should be approaching the phase of my life that comes with looking forward to grandchildren, but instead I accept the fact that God has placed me on a different path. I’ve discovered that my worth doesn’t come from my ability to have or not have children.
Sometimes we measure our worth by the world’s standards. What does the world tell us we need for success? A husband, children, certain size house, or an important job? Why should having a certain anything determine the value we place on ourselves?
When it comes down to it, we just want to matter to someone. We want to know that we make a difference in someone’s life. We want to be good enough, strong enough, and lovable enough, but many times instead, we feel not enough.
My dear friends, when I write these devotions, I try to be as transparent as possible. I want you to know that I struggle with self worth a lot, but I’m learning that until we get to Heaven, we can’t give someone else the power to determine our value. We can’t rely solely on our boyfriend, spouse, friends, parents, or pastor to build us up. It’s wonderful to be affirmed, but it’s not fair to us, or the other person, to always be the one who has to lift us up.
When we look to God first, we don’t have to wonder or guess about what His thoughts are for us. The very One who hung the stars is the same One who created us.
“And when you are old, I will still be there carrying you. When your limbs grow tired, and your eyes are weak, and your hair a silvery gray, I will carry you and save you.” Isaiah 46:4 (Voice)
One of the best things we can do is to allow God to keep working in our lives. God hasn’t finished writing your story. As long as you are still here, He still has a plan for you. As long as you can place your hand over your heart and still feel it beating, you not only have purpose, you have life. I have no idea what else He has in store for us, but I sure am looking forward to finding out.
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